Before Deciding to Divorce

When’s the last time you felt absolutely certain about the relationship you’re in?

Relationships can be difficult. But while all relationships have their ups and downs, there may come a time when you begin to question whether the ups and downs you’re experiencing are worth it and whether you should stay with your chosen partner. Even if your relationship is progressing smoothly, you may not feel as happy as you think you should.

Since women have become more independent and more able to provide for themselves, the thought of divorce or leaving a relationship are well within the realm of possibility for many. And when we aren’t feeling totally happy or when the relationship is on the rocks, we may consider separation or divorce. While having this option can be good, it can also be treacherous.

A large number of women come to therapy wanting to make a decision about leaving or staying in their current relationship. They find themselves constantly questioning the relationship and feeling confused about whether it’s really something they want. Working through the process of choosing to stay or go is exhausting.  Between children, extended family and finances, there’s a lot to consider, and women often feel they need to make an immediate decision. But that’s not usually the case (unless someone is in danger).

While living in limbo can be emotionally exhausting, it’s important to take the time to put serious thought into your decision. Each person’s time frame will be different. Many women feel they need to try everything they can to save the relationship before they make the final decision; others just want out.  But because everyone has different standards for what makes them happy and what constitutes a good relationship, no one else can make the decision for you. It takes time to evaluate just what is acceptable and what is intolerable.

If you’re confused about the future of your relationship, you need someone to talk to. Friends are great, but they often have their own opinions, which may be very different from yours. It’s important for you to make your own decision about your relationship and be confident about it.

Counseling can help by teaching you to evaluate just what’s important to you. Even if your spouse refuses to go to therapy, you may be able to implement changes on your own that will improve the relationship.

Counseling provides a comfortable, unbiased, confidential environment in which you talk to an experienced therapist who can help you work through your confusion. Everything that is discussed is confidential, and ultimately, you can rest assured you’ll make a decision that’s right for your life.

Counseling sessions are done via telehealth from the comfort of your home. Access can be simply achieved with a smartphone, tablet or computer. Leanne will walk you through the simple process. The quickest way to reach her is via text. She’ll do her best to return all calls, texts and emails by the next business day.


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