6 Tips to Decrease the Risk of Having an Affair

6 Tips to Decrease the Risk of Having an Affair

Relationships thrive on intimacy.  Don’t confuse intimacy with just sex however.  Intimacy is sharing our deepest thoughts and emotions with another.   It’s great to sit on Sunday and watch a football game with your spouse and talk about the plays.  Unfortunately, that’s not intimacy. When you find yourself unable to be intimate with your spouse your relationship may be at …

Is It Infidelity? 4 Ways to Tell if You or Your Partner’s Behavior is Inappropriate

4 Ways to Tell if You or Your Partner’s Behavior is Inappropriate

Communication no longer occurs just face to face.  We all have the ability to communicate with whomever we want whenever we want 24/7.  Since inappropriate interactions don’t only happen face to face, the question as to what constitutes an affair or infidelity can become an argument just as large as the offense itself.  I can’t tell you how many couples …

3 Hints to Help You Stay Positive and Sane During the Holidays

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The holiday seasons usually involves having to be around at least a few negative family, friends or fellow shoppers.  Believe it or not, you have a choice to stay sane and positive regardless of the anger and negativity around you.  Here are some hints to help you stay positive and sane during what can be a very stressful time of …

12 Simple Signs You May Be in the Wrong Relationship

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Many people spend an abundance of time thinking about the quality of their relationship.  Is he Mr. Right?  Will she take care of me?  Can I be the person he wants?  In my many years of being a therapist I have seen many pros and cons lists from clients searching for the answer to their questions.  Unfortunately, many of these …

6 Tips to Keep you Relaxed and Healthy during the Holiday Season

6 Tips to Keep you Relaxed and Healthy during the Holiday Season

What happened to the magic of Christmas?  My childhood memories of the holiday season seem to have been replaced with stress and exhaustion.  As I get older I see more clearly the stress we have put upon ourselves in an attempt to make the holidays spectacular rather than enjoyable.   Unfortunately, while trying to make the holidays the best we …

8 Ways to Deal with Dysfunctional Family Members during the Holidays

Dysfunctional Family Members during the Holidays

Remember when you were a kid and holiday gatherings with family meant fun times with your cousins?  Remember how exciting all the opening of gifts and the wonderful foods made the holidays something to look forward to?  Why and how did that change as we got older?  Besides having to do all the preparations, shopping and hosting, there are much …

How Defining Roles will Reduce Fighting in Your Relationship

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Fifty years ago, generally speaking, marriage was defined as something much differently than it is today.  One of the greatest differences was that roles were much more clearly defined and rarely questioned.  Marriage was a lifelong contract between two people and neither partner was preoccupied with the decision of divorce.  Typically men made the money, paid the bills and maintained …

8 Rules for Fighting Fairly with Your Partner

8 Rules for Fighting Fairly with Your Partner

As I have shared before, it’s normal to fight with your partner.  Regardless of commonality and compatibility every couple has their differences.  A healthy couple will fight on occasion.  Even if a fight appears resolved, however, it may not be.  If a couple doesn’t fight fairly there still may be some lingering negative feelings.  A couple can and should fight …

3 Tools to Help You Resolve a Fight With Your Partner

3 Tools to Help You Resolve a Fight With Your Partner

I’d like to be writing an article about how to avoid fighting with your partner.  However, if you want to have an intimate connection with your partner you need to fight on occasion.  There are two unique individuals in all relationships.  Regardless of what common interests, values and morals you may share, there are still unique differences that will cause …

Intimacy: How Fighting in a Relationship Creates Intimacy

Intimacy is the connectedness we feel when we are loved, understood and truly accepted by our partner.  Fighting in a relationship can lead to intimacy by allowing a couple to disagree while at the same time continuing to maintain respect, understanding and love. There are two unique individuals in all relationships.  Regardless of what common interests, values and morals they …