5 Things to Consider When Deciding to Stay or Go!

  I wish I could make a checklist which you could use to determine if you should stay or leave the relationship you are in.  Women begin therapy quite often looking for the answer to this very question. Unfortunately, there is no such list.  However, there are some things to consider which may help you move in the direction that …

8 Signs You May Be in a Toxic Relationship

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It’s happened to many of us.  We’re attracted to someone and think perhaps this is the one I’ll be with forever.  Then it changes.  You begin to see things.  Question things.  Hear things. Maybe you’re in a toxic relationship.  Toxic may seem a bit harsh but a relationship can affect us just like the definition of the word; poisonous, virulent, …

8 Red Flags to Put on Your Partner Selection List

Red Flags to Put on Your Partner Selection List

We’ve all learned that hindsight is 20/20.  Probably the worst time to learn it is when you’ve already made some kind of commitment to a relationship.  Most of my clients are able to look at the faults in their current partner and see that there were clues that faults existed from the beginning. If you’re committed to a marriage or …

Are You in a Healthy Relationship? 13 Key Aspects of a Healthy Relationship

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Many people believe that if they are attracted to their partner, everything else will fall into place.  However, when it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone attraction isn’t enough.    Once the love heroine wears off a bit it’s important you have the basics of a healthy relationship.  Below are 13 key aspects of a healthy …

8 Tips to Keep The Love Alive

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Remember in the beginning.  You were painting the town.  Meeting for lunch.  Bike riding at the beach.  Maybe even a weekend away every now and then.   Life was easy and fun.  You took care of your responsibilities which may have been few.  Your partner took care of their responsibilities which may have been few.  Maybe you met in college …

Benefits of the Long Term Relationship

Long Term Relationships aren’t the same as ‘falling in love’.  The “love heroine”, as I term it in my blog post Why Falling in Love Feels so Good, has worn off and you have moved from falling in love to being in a relationship. It’s important to know the difference as both have incredible benefits and positive feelings.  Refer to …

The Do’s and Don’ts of Successful Romantic Gestures!

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Everyone feels romanced in different ways.  For some it’s a special trip.  For others it’s a simple card.  It’s interesting, for instance, that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be all about flowers and chocolate.  Trust me, there are plenty of women who do not want either of those two items at all.  So are they just supposed to do without? …

Why Falling in Love Feels so Good?

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Ever wonder why falling in love feels so good?  Why does the beginning of a relationship feel like heaven on earth?  No fighting.  You feel you can talk about anything.  Just the thought of that first kiss gives you butterflies in your stomach.  You’ll cancel anything to see one another. The answer isn’t all that complicated.  Bluntly, I call it …

Relationship Decisions: 5 Tips for Getting You Through the Process

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There are many relationship decisions to be made throughout our lifetimes.  Should I marry him?  Maybe I should file for divorce?  Is it time to propose to her?  Should I separate?  I’ve been married and divorced.  Do I risk it again?  A large percentage of clients I see are struggling with making a major relationship decision.  It has been my …

Infidelity: Does an Affair Mean I Should Leave?

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Our society has developed many social rules which many people believe to be true.  For instance: Whoever wins the fight is the ‘bigger’ man.  Really? Couples who don’t fight have better relationships.  No Way! Women must be skinny to be attractive.  Seriously? If he hits me I need to leave.  Probably! In addition, there appears to be a social rule …